Thought Tuesday

Adulting 101 – Real Adults Take Responsibility for Themselves

Okay… I am back on the soap box today for Thought Tuesday.  It’s been a few months in development.  As I volunteer in the high school I am noticing an alarming trend within the adults-in-training that I serve.  This trend is often diagnosed as laziness.  However, I believe it is a lack of training… and I take responsibility for that lack and will now get atop my soap box and fix the problem…


Newsflash… We are all responsible for the entirety of our lives. This is a fundamental principle you must embrace if you plan on being happy and successful in life.  People who take responsibility for their lives experience real joy.  They are able to make choices because they understand choices.

I truly believe that we were created to “Act, not be acted upon.”

The choice is yours… will it be a disaster or will it be an opportunity to learn and to grow.


Everything is NOT everyone else’s fault!

Stop explaining away every problem with reasons why you can’t affect the situation or the outcome.

Take responsibility!


What does it mean to take responsibility for your life?  It means taking responsibility for your own actions and your own happiness.  It means recognizing that how things look at the outset doesn’t determine how things will end, and that although we can’t control everything, we do have the ability to influence how much happiness or suffering the events of our lives bring us.Excuses for failure, excuses about your choices, excuses about what you feel you have accomplished need to stop!  Making excuses instead of taking 100% of responsibility for your actions, your thoughts, and your goals are qualities of people who fail to succeed in life.

Stopping playing the victim!


Your focus should be on strengthening our inner fortitude, on developing a resolve to refuse to be defeated.  This would include refusing to blame others or anything else for our misfortune, position or status in life.  So, silence the negative unhelpful voice in your head.  Spend time thinking about success and accomplishment.

The next time you catch yourself making excuses, whether for a late project, an unmet goal, or an activity you have chosen to participate in, remind yourself – NO EXCUSES!

Listen to yourself when you speak.  Do you find yourself pointing fingers at your teachers, parents, coworkers or others?

Take feedback seriously.  Control your defensive impulsive and deepen your understanding.

No one can live your life for you.  You are in charge.  No matter how hard you blame others for what is going wrong in life, the truth is, each event is the result of choices you make and are making.

I’ve been really learning this principle over the past couple months.  If I want to weigh a certain weight, I have to eat and exercise like a person who would weigh that particular weight.  I have to change how I look at food.  Easy?  NO!  Do-able?  YES!

As human beings we have been endowed with a degree of self-awareness.  We are constantly engaged in making judgments, and decisions.

Live every day as if everything you do matters… IT DOES MATTER!  Every choice you make; every action you perform MATTERS!  You always make a difference.  Let that difference count for something.  Let that difference move the world forward.


Real adults in training complete assignments.

Real adults in training approach teachers when they miss assignments, need clarification, or need help understanding.

Real adults in training don’t blame their parents, their friends, their teachers, or the kid sitting next to them when their grades tank.

Real adults in training don’t try to get out assignments, claiming that the teacher is “unfair” when the reality is there was a lack of planning and ownership.

Real adults take responsibility for their actions and their happiness!


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