Thought Tuesday

Adulting 101 – Successful People Celebrate the Success of Others

How we handle other people’s success, especially when things may not be going the way we hoped, is an indicator of our maturity and our own confidence and belief in ourselves.

So… what can you do when the green-eyed monster of jealousy rears it’s ugly head when you see others thrive with opportunities, get recognition, or win what you wanted in life? You learn to celebrate other people’s successes!

If you can learn to be genuinely happy of other people, not only will you find a cure for your own unhappiness and envy, you will find freedom from frustration and worry, discover more personal opportunities, improve relationship with others, and create good karma. When you see an other person’s win as a loss for you, you set yourself up for discouragement and resentment. Instead, allow their success to ignite hope for when it is your turn. Celebrating with others creates more opportunities for everyone, including you! By sincerely congratulating other’s on their success, you are creating an atmosphere for others to be willing to celebrate your successes. It’s a win-win! Focus on the good and stay away from finding fault with other’s performance. Let’s be real. We need others. Healthy relationships with those we associate with involves sharing ups and downs. People respond in a positive manner when they sense that you are truly happy for them. You really do reap what you sow.

I am serious!

Stop believing that another’s success competes with your success. Focus on how that success is also your success! Take down feelings of resentment by coming up with ways you may have helped the person with feedback or even being a sympathetic listening ear.

Realize that success is not a zero-sum game.

It is good to hang out with successful people. It rubs off on you!

Use their success as your inspiration!

Dude! Being jealous makes you look insecure, and frankly, pathetic! Don’t be that way! You really don’t want the message you are sending to be the message received. People see bitterness as a jerk move… and that is putting it nicely.

Take charge of your own success. Make something happen. Odds are, that successful person worked hard and learned from previous mistakes.

Learn from other’s successes! Failure is not the end. Failure is the teacher. However, success is a great teacher too. Don’t be blind to the lesson you can learn from the success of others because you’d rather rationalize your failure.

Next time someone else gets the part you wanted, wins a competition, wins a game, gets a job, receives an award, don’t hate – celebrate! Being happy for others has nothing to do with being blind to the reality. It has everything to do with seeing reality for what it is.

Real adults celebrate the successes of others!

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